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In the United States there are millions of people between the ages of 18-24 (18-24 is considered prime dating and mate selection ages).The US Census bureau estimates that 8.5 percent of the US population or about 26 million people are single and between the ages of 18-24 years that’s nearly 15 million males and 15 million females (retrieved 12 June 2014 SOURCE Tables 1 and 2; and calculation based on Table 57 Statistical Abstracts of the US SOURCE ).Sometimes we even find minor and trivial reasons not to because we’re secretly happy with things just the way they are. Almost relationships and no strings attached sex are the millennial versions of commitment.We’re left constantly wondering where relationships are headed, if anywhere, and plague ourselves with wondering if we’re wasting our time.She's a cliche lover of wine, sushi, all things Parisian and spiking her coffee with Baileys.Sixty years ago if you were of marrying age, you’d most likely select someone based on how your parents felt about it; how healthy the person appeared to be; how good/moral their character appeared to be; and how stable their economic resources appeared to be. These are the types of questions and answers we consider when we study dating and mate selection.When we see people we filter them as either being in or out of our pool of eligibles. We might include some because of tattoos and piercing or exclude some for the exact same physical traits.
That couple in the bottom right-hand corner is my wife and I on a field trip to the Association for Applied and Clinical Sociology in Ypsilanti, Michigan.These days, things are endlessly more complicated and frustrating, and dating as a millennial is seriously screwed up. If we’re no longer interested in someone, we don’t need to tell them — we simply stop responding.If someone did this to us in real life, it would be completely psychotic, but because it’s over text or an instant message, we’ve somehow resigned ourselves to thinking it’s OK. Even in the golden ages, the “Dear John” letter was left on the table in the foyer, but now, we’re lucky if you even get a typed string of characters saying “I’m sorry, it’s not working.” We’re hyper-focused on sex.When we’ve hurt someone’s feelings, we don’t feel even the slightest bit inclined to apologize or to make good on our wrongs. A person’s emotions, even if caused by something we did or said, is up to them to resolve. We’re in the thick of a hookup culture that values sex more than love, temporary fulfillment instead of life-long commitment and lazy ass communication that often gets lost in translation.We feel entitled to walk around acting like complete losers with the expectation that the way it’s received is a reflection of the person we dump our stuff on and nothing to do with the fact that we were the cruel ones. We’re all so confused by our own pasts, and with heaps of more stuff constantly being added to the pile, we’re all becoming more and more jaded than ever before.